It's so easy, when you've just come out of a long relationship or marriage, to jump right into a new relationship as fast as possible. In fact, if you're feeling really needy, you will probably quite actively look for a "new love" to fill the void in your life.

There are a number of people on online dating sites in that emotionally rocky position, which is dangerous for them and for you, too, as a potential, unintended victim of their needs.

Tonja Weimer, who publishes an online newsletter called Savvy Dating, wrote about a man who is paying for his rash decision to marry a woman three months after the divorce from his first wife.

Now he's thinking he should look for someone else to make him happy, since his current wife is "too bossy and ciritical" and therefore needs to be removed from his life. I'm sure that she is not a happy woman and is not living the life she had hoped for, either.

From the Frying Pan to the Fire

No one wants to jump from one miserable relationship to another desperately unhappy union. Tonja has some good advice for him, and something we should all take to heart.

Just like many people who divorce, you met and married the first person you dated before you were fully recovered from your breakup. You had no time to discover: who you were, what you wanted in a new partner, and who your new wife really was. It is easy to meet someone, feel some level of chemistry, and think you are in love. Especially when you are needy.

If you're recovering from a divorce or the end of a long term relationship, give yourself plenty of time to heal. If you've just met someone in this situation, give him/her your sympathy and a wide berth for your own self preservation.

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Cosmo has a great online article with 17 essential dating tips…they are great! Here's a sample:

1. First dating rule: Chemistry trumps all. Even if he talked too much about his hybrid car or had T-bone steak in his teeth the whole time, if his kiss made you melt, he gets a second date.
2. On the flip side, we don't care if he's the hottest, richest, funniest, Orlando Bloomiest man ever. If smooching him gives you the creeps, cut your losses.
3. After you finally hook up with a guy you found through online dating in a coffee joint, it's fine to tell your friends "We met at a coffee joint." It's not even a lie (sort of)!

Read the rest of Cosmo's Dating Tips…

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The experts say, "Yes!"

• You just meet someone you felt a lot of chemistry with
• You've been dating someone for a few weeks but he hasn't called you this week
• You saw an attractive girl/guy in the library, your eyes connected, and you didn't talk – but your friend gave you a name

Any potential dating interest is worth one call. 

From Tanja Weimer at Singles Dating Tips:

Sometimes we make mistakes from being too tentative, by fearing rejection, and by waiting for the other person to make the move. When the guy or girl is a great person, if you wait too long, someone else will definitely find them.

Here is the etiquette and dating good sense for calling:

1. Do Call

If you have met someone interesting, whether you are a man or a woman, do not be afraid to call. You can send an email but you can't be sure they got it unless they answer it right away. If you have not heard from this new person in 24 hours – give them a call.

2. Calling at Work

If you only have a work number, keep the message or conversation short. Leave your name, where you met, and your return phone number twice. So many people leave their number on voice mail and cannot be understood. Say it clearly, twice so there will be no misunderstanding.

If you have the person's home number, call at an appropriate hour after work. NEVER make a first call late at night, (unless your name is Penelope Cruz or Brad Pitt.)

3. Perceived Rejection

This is where you need some gumption. The phone call may not work out the way you want it to. The person may be cold, aloof, or abrupt. Talk with them for a few minutes anyway. If they don't warm up after you've been your most charming self, say good bye.

And just so you don't focus on thinking you've been rejected, go and do something you LOVE to do with a friend. Go bowling, play tennis, go dancing, work out at the gym, or take a yoga class. You need to get up and get actively engaged in something so depression or negative thoughts don't set in.

Here are the rules when you think you've been rejected:

• Immediately change your thoughts about him or her
• Do something action oriented
• Do not sit at home brooding

4. Go Back To The Drawing Board

Make new plans to meet people to date. Keep your mind out of that pity party you might start to slide into. You are not a victim. You are a person of discerning taste who does not want to reach out for a relationship that is not there – nor do you have time to invent it.

5. When Not to Call

When the person belongs to someone else –do not call. If he only showed a mild interest in you – do not call. And if you have called him more than once – do not call.

Gather your lovely dignified self together and remember that tomorrow is another day of opportunities. You can find them everywhere and enjoy the process while you're looking. Don't turn the telephone into a drama machine. It's your opportunity tool, and - it's just a call.

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Do you know how men think? Do you know how to catch the interest of a man?

Check out these tips from Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate

Looks Can Kill

Women don't want to hear this, but looks are important to guys - whether you like it or not guys are visual. This sounds trite, but when you leave the house to run errands, put on a cute t-shirt and a nice pair of jeans. Run a comb through your hair and add some lip gloss. You don't have to get all done-up, just better than thrown together.

Flirting Is a Skill

Finding a man usually doesn't just happen. Think of flirting as a skill - practice and get good at it.

Make a Move

A lot of men afraid are afraid to approach women for fear of rejection. Act interested and friendly. Make a comment or ask a question when you see an attractive man. If he's interested, he'll follow up.

Self Confidence Works

Say to yourself "I can have anyone in this room." Fake it if you don't feel it. It will change your entire demeanor and make you look more desirable to men.

Turn Off Your Cell Phone

If you're constantly on your cell phone when you're out in public, you're not approachable.

Text Messaging Manners

Never a man ask you out with a text message. He should act like a gentleman and call you.

Go Where the Guys Are

And where are all the guys? Wherever there are sports. Go to the golf course and practice hitting balls. If you don't know how there are bound to be several men who'd be more than happy to give you tips. Another place is at Home Depot or Lowe's. Get yourself out of the paint department and over to lumber, screws, and hinges. (I don't know why, it just is.)

How to Drive Men Away

3 surefire ways to drive a man off:

1. Act desperate for kids. A woman who stares at baby carriages or makes comments makes guys run.
2. Bitterness. Don't bring your baggage along on your first date. Go on a date with a fresh start and open mind.
3. Selfishness. Men appreciate a 'Thank you' when they buy you dinner or do something nice for you.

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