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The following post was guest blogged by Bill G. of Web Personals Online – an online dating and personals site that provides advice about using online personals effectively and successfully.

Women who use online personals have a number of hurdles to overcome to determine whether the responses they are receiving are from genuinely interested parties or from individuals who may not be as interested as they are in pursuing a relationship. The following post will address some of the issues that women who are using online dating services must deal with and will also attempt to offer some insight on how to realize when a man is interested, as well as what guys are looking for when they respond to online personal ads placed by women.

From a man’s perspective, there is typically much more competition for the women at any given online dating site. This is because more men than women use online dating sites. The result is that women are often presented with two types of responses to their online dating ads. The first kind of response they are likely to receive is the type from guys who just ‘play the numbers.’ These are men who figure that because there is so much competition they may as well respond to as many profiles as possible and hope that they receive some responses. Women should be on the lookout for real short, terse, and somewhat generic responses to their personal ads and pay close attention to the content of the responses they receive to try to determine if the guy even took the time to read the woman’s profile. One good idea for women who are joining an online dating site is to join with a friend and compare notes. For instance, if the woman and her friend are both receiving similar responses from the same male members this is a pretty good indication that these guys are just ‘playing the odds.’ Typically, these guys are more interested in casual encounters and may not be looking for anything more than a one-night stand. Although there are exceptions, women should be very judicious in determining who they respond to.

The second type of response a woman is likely to receive is from a man who may be genuinely interested in her and took the time to find out about her by reading her profile before responding to her online dating ad. A man who is genuinely interested in meeting a woman at an online dating site for a potential relationship will be much more likely to read her entire profile and actually be interested in what she has to say. Women need to evaluate the responses they receive from men to determine if the response is from a guy who falls into this second group. The content of the response should be enough to determine if the guy actually falls into this second group. Women should look for comments about specific items in her profile in the man’s response, which would indicate that he took the time to read her profile. Another positive sign that the response may be from a genuinely interested member is if there are questions related to the woman’s profile, personality, her hobbies, or interests that she mentioned in her ad. If the guy is soliciting more information from her, this should indicate that there is genuine interest on his part. There is a much higher probability that if the man is from this second group that future communication could lead to something more. Men from this second group are typically more serious and selective.

A common complaint from women who use online personals is that men they have met online sometimes stop communicating with them or that when things seem to be going well, the guy stops calling. Typically if a guy is from the first group, he may be more interested in making a quick score. If the guy treats online dating like a numbers game, the woman who thinks he is genuinely interested in her may not realize that as soon as he receives a response from someone who he finds more attractive or potentially easier to seduce, he may drop her without warning or explanation. Guys who are interested in pursuing a more serious relationship often provide longer responses, comment on specific items in the woman’s profile and ask questions that indicate they are interested in getting to know the woman on a deeper level.

By focusing on communicating with guys from the second group mentioned above, the success rate for women who use online dating sites should definitely improve and there should be less chance of a guy who seemed interested, at first, losing interest later on.

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By Bill Keith

Landing a first date is, unfortunately, is not the hardest part of dating. It’s the elusive second date that can be trickiest to score. Having trouble getting to the next round? Maybe you’re making some of the following classic rookie mistakes that lock the dating door before you’ve even tried to open it.

1. Going anything but Dutch
Although some people think that the person who’s done the asking out should do the paying, going Dutch works best. A first date is no time to establish a power structure, so paying for your date or letting him buy on the first date can be just plain awkward. “Since he asked me out, I let him pay for dinner, but it made me feel weird, like I was a woman from the 1950s,” remembers Brant from Boston, of a recent first date. “The only reason I almost asked him on a second date was so that I could even the score by paying for it, but I decided not to.”

2. Talking on the phone or texting mid-date
Unless the phone call is from the police, fire department or hospital, no one needs to take a call in the middle of a first date. If, for whatever reason, you do need to make a call or send a “Things are going well” or “Please come rescue me” text to a friend, do it discreetly from the bathroom.

3. Talking about your time on the couch
Seeing a therapist is certainly nothing to be ashamed of, but bringing up mental-health issues is a little heavy for a first date. “I was on a date, and within 15 minutes, he was telling me how his therapist was convinced he had slept with his twin brother,” says Michael from New York. “I see a therapist, too, but it’s not like my panic attacks make the best icebreaker.” And the same holds true if you’re on medication. Though you might feel like it’s being dishonest not to disclose your Prozac prescription, it really isn’t necessary to give someone the major points of your emotional and psychological development in the same conversation where you’re learning where he went to college.

4. Discussing the last time you hooked up with someone
There is no good way for this conversation to go. Regardless of when the last time was, it will either sound like (a) too long ago, making your date wonder what the hell is wrong with you, or (b) too recent, making him feel like just another potential notch in your belt. Though there is no need to cover up the fact that you have a sexual history, there’s also no need to provide a bulleted list of your conquests or lack thereof.

5. Showing up late
It’s standard etiquette, but being late to a first date really doesn’t bode well for the future. “If a guy is late to a first date with me, he has a lot of work to do to prove to me that he’s not a flake or doesn’t think his time is more important than mine,” says Max of New Orleans.

6. Giving the hard sell
Everyone knows the first date is a bit of a mutual interview process; however, no one should feel like they’re sitting down to a PowerPoint presentation on your attributes, interests and skill set. “I went out with a guy who within the first 10 minutes had told me his favorite bands, TV shows, movies, where he saw himself in five years and what he was looking for in a boyfriend. It was like we were on a speed date and no one told me,” says Dan of Phoenix. No one wants to feel like just another guy in a line of applicants to be someone’s boyfriend. There are obvious points for both seeming interested in someone else’s background and providing interesting stories about yourself, but make sure to take it easy and try to let these talking points come about organically in give-and-take style.

7. Having friends come by
Asking friends to casually pop in to wherever you may be on your first date to see how things are going is one of the least-friendly things you can do: It’s just plain stressful for the other party. “Was he so worried that I’d be no fun that he needed a rescue plan? I felt like we were 16 all of a sudden,” says Marc of San Diego. “Plus, when they showed up, it was even more stressful, because I felt like I had to impress both him and his friends.”

8. Fighting with the waiter
“Treating a waiter or bartender like crap is the biggest turnoff imaginable,” says Ted of Miami. “It just speaks to how this person treats other people in general, and I’d never go on a second date with someone who did that. Even if your waiter screws up the order, you’ve got to be able to roll with the punches and try to make the best of it.” A first date is time to be on your best behavior, and if that means biting your tongue for the sake of keeping things easy-going in an already tense situation, so be it.

9. Hitting on the waiter
It seems like an obvious no-no, but you’d be amazed how often guys make eyes at the waiter on a first date. If your waiter is a dead ringer for Jake Gyllenhaal, there’s nothing wrong with talking about that with your date briefly—sometimes it’s hard not to mention. Just draw the line at staring at his butt!

10. Deferring to your date on everything
There’s a lot to be said for being agreeable, but letting your date call everything from the venue to what you’re drinking to what you’re doing next can be just as annoying as bulldozing through an evening. It’s OK to have an opinion—in fact, it’s downright important. After all, you want to start off on an even playing field, with both of you calling the shots — and seeing where your personalities connect — and where they don’t. That’s what makes a date interesting, after all.

Bill Keith is a freelance writer based in New York, where he contributes to Best Life, Cosmopolitan and GQ, among others.

Source: Match.com Official Site

Source: Match.com Official Site

By Nina Malkin

Few holidays arouse the vitriol of Valentine’s Day. No matter where you are relationship-wise, you may be feeling the pressure—and a burning desire to swat Cupid right on his little rear end. But take heart (sorry!). Your V-Day sentiments of sadness, anger or simple annoyance are justified, and — more importantly — there are plenty of ways to cope and feel some love this February 14. Here’s how:

If you’re suddenly solo…
Breakups suck, but they suck the most right about now. If your relationship just fell apart, even an innocuous Hershey’s kiss has the power to sock your self-esteem. “Why do I hate Valentine’s Day? Because I’m alone! Thanks for reminding me!” snaps Maura D., 27, who lives near Baltimore. Ease the angst by reaching out to friends and family. “There is love in your life, a lot of it,” says Santa Barbara, CA–based marriage therapist and coach Wendy Allen, Ph.D. “Celebrate the people who love you, no matter what.”

Since V-Day hype can hurt, protect rather than punish yourself. “Have very little media interaction and avoid the public arena if possible, so you’re not faced by all the hoopla,” suggests Boston-based career and relationship coach Suzanne Blake. “Have friends over for a potluck dinner or to watch DVDs rather than go out to eat or to the movies,” amid all the goo-goo-eyed lovers.

If you’re a social butterfly…
Maybe you’re dating around, having fun—but searching for The One isn’t your priority at present. Or maybe you just don’t appreciate being told that there’s a certain date where you have to rev up the romance. “Valentine’s Day makes romance feel like an obligation,” says Ruthie A., from Oahu, HI. “Love is not an obligation, and I don’t need some overblown money-making business telling me when to do romantic things.”

Unfortunately, the V-Day marketing machine is cranked up to give you the guilts. You may even believe the holiday is a conspiracy spearheaded by your mother to get you to settle down. “Like it or not, Valentine’s Day is a defining moment—a time to take stock of your love life,” says Blake. “It can be hard to go against the grain.” If you’re really into playing the field, dare to be date-free on V-Day. “Show off your independence by going out solo as you might on any other night of the year or with a buddy,” says Blake. “It sends a good message to people less secure about being single.”

If you’re dating someone new…
There’s enough pressure on those who’ve recently started seeing someone. Then V-Day comes along to up the ante. If you have a new sweetie, you can’t help but wonder: “Should I ask him/her out for Valentine’s Day? If I do, what does it mean? Is it possible to treat February 14 like any other day? Are gifts, cards, the whole nine yards required?” It’s easy to misstep, as did a wealthy client of Blake’s who bought a woman he was casually dating expensive earrings as a V-Day gift. “He thought that’s what he was supposed to do, but she thought it meant they were a rock-solid couple and put a lot of expectations on the relationship he wasn’t ready to deliver on.”

Moral of the story? Keep it low-key. “If you’re dating someone new, don’t ignore the holiday—that won’t work,” says Allen. “Instead, reframe it. Decide to celebrate your new friendship, not love.” One idea: You and your date can buy some stuffed animals and take them to the children’s unit at your local hospital. Doing service with someone offers insight into the person, and being around those less fortunate may make you forget Valentine’s Day drama.

If you’re contentedly coupled…
Yes, even members of blissful twosomes can abhor the holiday. “I hate Valentine’s Day,” vents happily married Matt M., 39, from New York City. “You’re supposed to feel romantic in the face of all those schlocky pink lace decorations? Yuck. Talk about how to take something special and make it feel silly and commercial!” Adds Catherine E., 38, of Los Angeles, who’s engaged: “It isn’t enough to make a simple gesture. Now it feels as if you have to show everyone how much you care.” In fact, it can feel as if doing less than long-stemmed roses, candlelit dinner and $40-a-pound truffles is downright uncaring.

When expensive gifts and fancy dinners feel de rigueur, what couple wouldn’t want to snuggle at home watching Metalocalypse on DVD? That’s definitely an option. As Blake suggests: “Bond by doing the most un-V-day-oriented thing you can think of—have a sports marathon, go shopping for a refrigerator. Dare to break the mold—do something goofy and different to declare your independence as a couple.”

By following these tips, hopefully you can break away from feeling beset by Valentine’s Day—and enjoy the 14th in an unconventional way.

Nina Malkin is author of An Unlikely Cat Lady: Feral Adventures in the Backyard Jungle.

Source: Match.com Official Site